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Dating life in NYC right now? Posted by 1 year ago. Dating life in NYC right now? Lots of people have moved out from the city during this pandemic.
- Dating in NYC for a late 20s male with 80-120K salary? How easy / how hard? How are the ladies here?
- I’ve 23F lived in nyc for the last five years and I feel so frustrated and sad at this point. I have no problem getting dates and it’s very easy to get matches on dating apps but serious dating or dating someone for more than a couple of months is near impossible.
This is my dating log from January 1st 2018 to the present. I'm an early 30's male, originally from the midwest. I've been living in NYC and working in the media/entertainment industry for about 8 years. Income is at about 60k. For NYC I would put myself at lower middle class. I live in an outer borough with roommates, though the apartment is nice.
I'd peg myself as average looking, though unfortunately my hairline has been rapidly receding over the past few years. I pretty much exclusively use Tinder/Bumble/OkCupid to arrange dates, as I've never been very good at 'normal' methods of dating. A few other random tidbits that may or may not be relevant:
I usually will go on dates until I find someone steady, and then date them exclusively for a few months to 2 years.
I tend to date my age or a few years younger
For the entirety of my time in NYC, I would estimate that half the first dates I paid for, and half were split, with one excpetion
I feel most compatible with women that also work in the Entertainment Industry. TV producers, actresses/signers, Broadway staff, camera dept, etc
This log doesn't include the beyond countless interactions that, for one reason or another, never get past messaging on the app or texting. It can be quite difficult to get someone to meet IRL in NYC.
I pulled this log from my calendar/emails/texts/memory. There were probably between 5-8 other first dates where I just used the app messenger, and have no record once they delete the conversation.
NYC is a great place if you want to go on endless first dates.
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| Name | Activity | Result |
|---|---|---|
| Carrey, 28 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Anna, 27 | Drinks after work | She texted after, but I wasn't attracted to her so I declined |
| Caitlin, 27 | Drinks after work | Cute. I texted her after but she never responded |
| Casey, 25 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Amy, 28 | Coffee in the afternoon | Very pretty. I texted her after, but she declined to meet again |
| Katy, 27 | Drinks after work | One Night Stand |
| Andrea, 25 | Drinks after work | Stunningly beautiful actress. Kiss at end of date. I texted her after, but she declined to meet again |
| Erica, 26 | Coffee after work | Very Pretty, worked in marketing. Agreed to a second date |
| Erica, 26 (2nd date) | Dinner and drinks after work | Made out at the bar and agreed to meet again, though later said she wasn't interested |
| Angela, 29 | Drinks after work | Probably the most beautiful woman I've gone on a date with since I moved here. Stage actress. It was kind of tough to gauge what she thought of me. Kicking myself for not texting her after as I thought she wasn't into me |
| Lily, 30 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Bianca, 25 | Drinks after work | I texted her after but she never responded |
| Trina, 26 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Sally, 27 | Coffee in the afternoon | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Gina, 30 | Drinks after work | Very pretty and nice twitch streamer. She agreed to meet again, but eventually ghosted |
| Kim, 30 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Leanne, 29 | Drinks in the afternoon | Cute. Hooked up, agreed to meet again |
| Leanne, 29 (2nd Date) | Drinks after work | Hooked up, agreed to meet again |
| Leanne, 29 (3rd Date) | Movie and Dinner | The vibe felt a little off the whole time, no hook up, didn't talk again after |
| Ginny | Drinks after work | Cute, but not much chemistry. Neither texted after |
| Sandra, 30 | Drinks after work | Very pretty teacher. Agreed to second date |
| Sandra, 30 (2nd Date) | Day Drinking and Lunch | Kissed at end of date. Agreed to third date |
| Ali, 27 | Drinks after work | Neither texted after, no chemistry/attraction |
| Sandra, 30 (3rd Date) | Brunch and Broadway Show | I texted her after but she never responded |
| Holly, 31 | Drinks after work | Very cute. Agreed a to second date, though later said she was moving out of NYC and never heard from her again |
| Rebecca, 31 | Drinks in the afternoon | Agreed to second date |
| Rebecca, 31 | Drinks in the afternoon | Agreed to a third date, but eventually ghosted |
| Elaine, 25 | Drinks after work | Very cute actress/director. I texted her after but she said she was going to be very busy. Never heard from her again. |
| Erica, 30 | Drinks in the afternoon | Cute teacher, I texted her after but she said she wasn't interested |
| Amanda, 28 | Drinks after work | Very cute therapist. I texted her after but she never responded |
| Becky, 24 | Drinks after work | Pretty, but she didn't seem into me. She bought the drinks, literally the only time I can remember the female paid. |
| Jenny, 28 | Drinks after work | Cute, but not much chemistry. Neither texted after |
I feel as if I'm finally ready for a relationship - or at least a consistent companion to help get through the lonely pandemic. The reason I mention NYC is because young professionals are always so busy here and you're always meeting new people so it's a little tougher to keep something consistent. Went on a few first dates that didn't progress and starting to think it may be me (lol) but I have a serious question that a lot will relate to.
Speed Dating In Nyc
Is the double text a good idea? Keep in mind I'm 26 so people my age look into this stuff. It can come across as needy and desperate and also there's a social cue that whomever didn't respond to last conversation usually texts first next. (at least in my mind - if you think different I'd love to hear your take).
I want on a date with a girl recently and as it was concluding she was actually the one saying 'so am I going to see you again?' - so I was feeling really good about it. However a week and a half has passed and she has been barely responsive to texts and very distant.
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My last text to her was a joke that clearly didn't land cause she didn't answer (lol). Thus, should I text her asking to hang again or wait for her to do so?